Saturday, April 24, 2010


Thanks, everybody, for the kind words. We have seen this coming for a while. But until she hits this point, there is not a lot that can be done to help because she doesn't think she needs it.

Yesterday she wore Mom out. My sister-in-law and I did dinner/desert so Mom didn't have to. Dinner was waiting when she got home with the 2 kids and their stuff. We helped unload the car and get things set up. Earlier in the day my brother-in-law had brought the crib. He recognizes that this will not be a short term situation.

Some of what Mom and BIL went through:
  • She was completely ignoring the kids
  • She wouldn't bathe which is VERY unlike her - she is usually dressed to the "T", make-up and hair perfect
  • She would talk obsessively about what she had done (won't go into that) and that the police were coming to get her (there is no reason...just paranioa)
  • When not talking, she would look off into space
They finally got her to the doctor around noon and the doctor agreed that she needed admission. But. There was no open room on the psych floor. They finally called around 3 today - which meant BIL had a rough night of listening to her.

Today I went over to Mom's to help her out. She needed to sort through what she brought to see what she still needed. About noon, Little Sister decided she needed to see her kids. So BIL brought her over. Truth be told, I think BIL just needed a break, because she ignored the kids unless they were shoved in her face. But I don't begrudge him that break. He SO needed it. But by this afternoon she was trying to convince us she was fine and didn't need to go to the hospital. Um, too bad and none of us are stupid. She tried to keep talking to me and I had to tell her that the didn't need to be talking about this in front of her 3 year old daughter.

Anyway, she is where she needs to be, safe, getting the help she needs. And maybe THIS time she will stay on her meds. Maybe. But probably not.


  1. That is what I consider a breakdown honey. I'm sure you don't need anyone telling you that. Has she been diagnoised with anything particular? She just HAS to get on meds and stay on them or she may find herself not 'getting out' for a while. Scary stuff Lisa.

    Damn I wish you and your family could get a break from trauma. Love you girl....

  2. She has been diagnosed with schizophrenia with paranoid delusions. Scary stuff.

    BIL said that the whole way to the hospital she was saying she was fine, she didn't need to be there with all those crazy people.

    I just hope that this time she WILL stay on her meds.

  3. That is scary stuff. Hopefully she can take the help she is offered. sorry.

  4. Keeping the meds in her is what is going to be the battle. Can your brother in law hide it in her food? I am glad that she is where she is. I'll keep you guys in my prayers.

  5. Glad to see that she is getting the help that she needs. Sorry your family is having to go through this scary stuff right now. I'll be keeping you in my prayers.

  6. I am afraid I understand more than I want too.
    It is extremely difficult when you love someone (most days ~ small smile) with the issues your sister is dealing with. I hurt for all of you ~ but especially, her children ~ and husband.

    So sorry. So VERY sorry.

    I will be lifting up MANY MANY prayers.